Recently my friend has been having issues with her best friend from back home. I was at dinner when she texted me and asked what I was doing. She wanted to know if we could hang out because she was going through some things. Of course I could not say no. So she came over to my dorm and we sat and talked.
We are both pretty religious and practice the Christian faith so we talk about that a lot. Her friend is having issues with finding her faith again and she partially blames my friend. So my friend is rather upset about it because honestly she is a great friend to her. All of this came as such a shock to me that I didn't know what to say to her about it.
Since I was confused as to how I could help I just sat and listened for the most part. I feel like that is the best thing you can do if you don't know how to help, instead of giving horrible advice/suggestions, only making the situation worst. I'm glad that I approached the situation this way because it helped my friend to feel better.
I think that I could maybe ask more questions next time so that I can understand better what's going on, instead of assuming what the situation sounds like without actually knowing. Maybe I could offer to do something that I know she likes doing, to get her mind off of it. But at the same time I think that I should let her talk about the situation as much as she needs to until she feels like she doesn't need to talk about it anymore. I think I did well for someone who just does not like to give advice, but I am more than willing to try harder to offer my help next time. :)
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