CALL TO ALL YOUNG WOMEN LEADERS

I have so much advice to young women leaders. Not all of it may seem like it has to do with how these leaders can map out a great future but it is all relevent, I promise. All young women first and foremost need to know that whatever you do it needs to be what you want to do and something that you feel in your heart like a heavy rock. If you don't enjoy something so much that it hurts sometimes then I do not believe that it is your calling. I know that this seems a bit dramatic but this is how I truly feel about what we chase after in life.

I think that we sometimes mistake passion for a fling. Now, by definition a fling is a short period of unrestrained pursuit of one's wishes or desires or an attempt at something. There are over ten definitions and I chose the act of flinging as it is used as a noun not a verb to describe this feeling of only a short term longing to ATTEMPT something. I don't know about anyone else but I want my life to be much more than an attempt! A string of attempts, or ongoing tries does not cut it for me at the end of the day. Trying is wonderful but if that is all that we do in life without getting at a goal we spend our lives trying to be something or do something. Don't just try, be! Do it! Never think that your actions are trying, they must be actively doing something. Because then when things get tough trying turns into a whine or an excuse instead of an effort. We don't need thatit just won't suffice!

In my living room my mommy has a plaque that says a woman needs to know how to look like a girl, act like a lady, think like a man, and work like a dog. This quote always fascinated me and I've lived my life trying to model just what this piece of wood in my living room that I would sit and stare at daily. I decided a long time ago that I would not be one to just sit and stare. I didn't think that this had anything to do with this plaque until recently but now I know that this plaque made me think of my mommy and I looked up to her so much and wanted to be like her and model the way for others to follow what this plaque says not only in its words but what it says about women. It shows that women are so many things, not even by choice, but it also is showing us that we should embrace all of the things that we are and that this is the way to do them. Not with anger, resentment, or bitterness, but with grace. We all need to remember this. I try to.

I know that we all have issues with love from time to time. :) I just want to say to every woman to not let someone who loves you or that you love get in the way of your dreams. Do not stay or go because of them. If they truly love you then they will encourage you, with their love, to do what you need to do to make yourself better and to live your life as you originally intended. Just believe me when I say, I know that I am young but I know. It's at this time in life when it happens to us, that we let being in love be our life so I'm first hand inside of the experience so listen! This is the time when we should be looking at ourselves and figuring out who we are and not who we need to be with. I know, it's going to be love. This is a line from a song but to me it means that in life its going to be love that will set us free but it does not necessarily have to always be about two hearts, loving a person, and being with them forever. Don't get me wrong I am not knocking love! I just think that we don't realize that it is more than we can take and that it changes everything that we feel. How will we let this effect us? It's up to you to let it make you stronger or let it tear you down. We may fall down in love but getting back up is what we should live for.

I know that this is not the most formal way to tell women how to be strong and lead but I think they get the point. I'm sure that there is so much more that I could say but I am choosing to just leave the rest up to women to figure out. Others have done it to us and I think that it's a good way to let us all figure out what things mean and truly what they mean to us. Are you a leader yet? :)